Saturday, 15 January 2011

Dating Dramas

Firstly I must apologise for my lack of blogging of late, but things have really been a little hectic. Hopefully things should be getting back on track now. So in trying to get 'back on track' I have been thinking of a worthy subject to write about. Then it dawned on me.  

I have been single now for 4 years and I still haven't got the hang of this dating malarkey. So I thought I would share my dating dramas (however embarrassing they may be), and see if any of you Curvalicious beauties feel the same? 

I think dating is a fairly new concept in the UK which is hard enough in itself, but I think dating for plus sizes can be even harder. Not necessarily because people don't find us attractive, its unbelievable how many men actually prefer plus size ladies. I think it tends to be more of an insecurity issue. 

I don't know about you guys, but I find it extremely difficult to take a compliment. Don't get me wrong, everyone loves a compliment, and lots of them. But no matter how hard I try, I can't just accept one. I always have to return with a sarcastic comment or quip like 'are you sure you don't wear glasses??' or 'that will be the alcohol talking'. Its like dating tourettes..... I just can't help myself. 

I always seem to think, that if someone is interested in me, there must be an ulterior motive i.e they are only after a one night stand, they are trying to use me for regular no strings sex. I always tend to think they are lying about their marital status. I must admit that in the past four years, the majority of men I have met have fallen in to one if not all of those categories. So I then start to question myself, 'is it me? Am I doing something wrong which attracts this particular calibre of man? Is it because of my size? Are all men now like this? If so, then it looks like I am going to be single for the rest of my life ;-)

Don't get me wrong I am not deliberately putting myself out there desperate to find a someone. I'm not one of these needy women who feel like they have to be in a relationship to feel complete, although the company would be nice once in a while lol. If I find someone then fair enough, if I don't then fair enough too.  So who knows? I may be single for another 4 months or another 4 yrs.... either way I'll be ok with it. 

Are you currently single?? How do you find dating?? Do you have all the same feelings as me?? I'd love to hear all about it, please get in touch, if only to confirm that I am not the only one lol.

Lots of love



  1. Those words literally have been lifted straight out of my head. I feel exactly the same. I worry if a guy chats to me then he is doing it for a laugh and I find it hard to take compliments but then again I am alot bigger than you lol x

  2. So sorry Nikki, only just seen your comment. I'm glad to see its not just me thinking these things lol ;-) x x